If you feel strongly about this topic please only vote for politicians that wsnt bc and abortions to be safe & legal or dont complain. Bank account. She was useless! Did I forget? My future brother in law dated a single mom of a 5 year old, and she, unsurprisingly, got pregnant within 3-4 months of dating. 30 direct signs that he secretly wants you pregnant: 1. I have come across ladies who approach me to ask how to go about it when men keep bugging them with marriage discussions. As a woman who has known a few women who I suspect of being gold diggers, I urge men to tread with major caution when Ms. But I was very sure I must take responsibility to raise a child. We ended things there. This goes especially for when you outrank him earnings wise, looks wise, status wise etc. And a horrible mother. She said that the pills may have not worked. She proceeded to message me threats saying shell ruin my name in town, knows where I live, Im a terrible person, etc. I gave her a phone call asking what could be done so that this will never happen again (which was a terrible mistake), and after trying to listen to her drunken rambling I had realized she kept changing her personal history, stories she had told me previously (number of past boyfriends), and wouldnt acknowledge past events. In fact when I told him I was pregnant I said I am telling you because you deserve to know. I left it at that. On June 22, after hearing that she had been to a pool bar I usually took her to, I went and checked out their CCTV footage and saw her there with a female friend playing pool. Last one cost him a house and $1,000.00 a month, no kids. (Theres more to the story but these are facts). Javier: I will reach out to you via email to talk further. I wasnt dumb enough to marry her. Some of them are married now, but its hard to say how that will turn out. 4. My intuition told me that she was about to tell me that she was pregnant. I felt guilty cause I did finish inside her but the more time passes my initial intuition is 100% this was planned by her. Im fairly feminist, but if I ever have a son, you can bet Ill raise him on dont put your dick in crazy.. His stupidity is just as much to blame. Meanwhile when I called her at work she couldnt talk. He was desperate to make himself look like a valid person so he could get his other children in court. She never did. She has something to gain from being your baby momma. I guess she must have sensed something was off and turned into a bloody psycho. I asked what about the birth control and she informed me she had stopped taking it. And its true that men will do it to control. I wish I had found this in 2008. So unless your girlfriend or whoever had tuberculosis, they shouldnt have any problems with antibiotics interfering with BC. Our son sadly is a loveable man who is gullible. So Ive lost this person. I want to find out some how if she did it on purpose. I hope that you can find your way to a happy life. Not long enough, the man had a feeling that the lady was not much interested and so he started thinking of ways to make her stay. Now looking back that was actually the smarter decision. If he initiates sex more often during your ovulation period, that's another sign he wants to get you pregnant. We decided to try a long-distance relationship, but one month after I got a called saying that she is pregnant! One time she even told me well meet after work but she never got in touch. I once dated a guy who was a pharmacist. I bailed. If shes manipulative enough to set a pregnancy trap, youre in for a terrible marriage if you allow the trap to work. The guy had no idea that she was in a relationship with me and told me that she is a serial lier. By clicking Accept, you consent to the use of ALL the cookies. Who is willing to have a baby to stay with someone that doesnt even want to be with them anymore? If you were thinking about breaking up with herthe pregnancy might be a trap. 21. Conversation ended. Now 70, have a girlfriend of 30+ years but all I am to her is Mechanic, Maintenace man and chauffeur as there has not been any sex in at least ten years. My gf of 6 months, whos in her final year studying civil engineering told me on 6th June she wasnt feeling well, I should find a clinic for her to visit. The following came and she did not commit to our scheduled meet up times. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. Sounds like he should know better. This woman (in her 40s, my gf/ex is 24) had been saying a lot of things to my gf and shed tell me. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience. I told her I want us to visit a family clinic to which she agreed but never committed to the times I called her to meet up. It is important to note that any man who feels his position is at threat will make an effort to trap you by making you pregnant. there was no declaration from either of us we didnt want any kids right now. I asked him why he was A SLOW LEARNER or just liked giving away money. I had decided to break off the relationship as soon as I got back home. In my blog, I have mentioned several signs that he wants to trap you with pregnancy. He may not be able to come out and talk about marriage just yet, so look for these three signs that he wants to marry you instead. I eventually hung up and blocked her on all social media except instagram. Its hard to tell what was really going on with your ex, but it is easy to say that you should stay away from her and move on with your life. He respects your boundaries and makes sure that he doesn't step on them. We agreed it was best to not go through with the pregnancy, besides, itd affect her last year in school. But, when a woman is pregnant, the motivation to dress up or even change into fresh clothes somewhat disappears. I knew he wanted to get me pregnant. We explained that she could leave you, take half and laugh. 2. Things to avoid in a relationship are assuming off the cuff that you're in love when it could very well just be a strong case of "like.". See additional information. What do you think the man did? 1. I decided to support her and send her money and to keep our relationship for ever. The circle of destruction around a manipulator can be very wide. He discourages you from using birth control pills, 7. A bright light in your story is that it sounds like the kids saw reality and you have a strong relationship with them. Shocked and scared (26y/o), I didnt know what to do so I proposed and almost sick to my stomach said I do. If she will benefit in some way from the pregnancythe pregnancy might be a trap. We do the tests and she is 2 weeks pregnant. Sometimes the best-laid plans run amuck and create offspring. Later on she said she was at work and couldnt answer. I even told him I remember being 18 and thinking about men who would make suitable fathers and husbands and things girls who I knew have done. Stuart: Sorry to hear the pain that you are carrying. Absence of meaningful communication. A toxic man's tactics and actions play mind games on her and keep her second-guessing herself, always wondering if she was right about the beginning and he changed, or if she assessed him incorrectly right from the start and he deceived her. Right suddenly appears out if the blue. I honestly think women who do such a thing are not mentally stable. She cannot decipher which is the real guy: the vulnerable one she met in the beginning, the one who acts normal for the long stretches of time, or the one who is playing games and hurting her. I will ask you one question about this. Actually, when you do, make sure you post the entire story of what you did to him so everyone can burn you with serves you right. She then says it was an accident, but it was actually the result of a well-conceived plan (figuratively and literally). But if you do, you'll be on your way to breaking free and finding a peaceful, healthy relationship with someone who deserves you and makes you feel happy. We had built trust between each other so eventhough when she insisted to finish inside was so strange at the moment I stopped and asked her if she was sure. First If you arent married to her dont marry her. However, he said no way not marrying you and opted the other route of custody and child support. Some of the red flags you might see include his working excessive overtime or spending too much time at the office, her being vague about where she's been or will be, his or her dependence on alcohol or drugs, his asking you for money, her lack of boundaries with her family, his siding the with guys over you, her blaming everyone but herself for I was in shock because she was taking contraceptive pills. She hijacked and altered the course of my entire life. Anyways my problem is that shes always saying shes pregnant and weve been having weird miscarriages and stuff or she doesnt want closeness n or cuddling with her and so Im wondering if they could be a red flag or something? What can I do now? I stuck with it and put up with shit for 18 years. Some signs he's trying to get you pregnant are: He talks about babies frequently He tries to forego birth control, like condoms He often initiates sex when you are sleepy or otherwise preoccupied He keeps trying to coax you to have unprotected sex in the heat of the moment He insists on getting condoms all the time 8. Then it changed to we all do the same things. But it is a changing world. The weekend passes and 15 days after sex she goes to planned parenthood and they tell her (I was told from her that the doctors said) shes 5 weeks pregnant and it has a heart beat. How To Recognize Subtle Signs Of Domestic Violence, 3 Mind Games The Most Insecure Men Play In Relationships, If Your Guy Does These 7 Things, He's Playing You For A Fool, 16 Warning Signs You're Dealing With An EVIL Person, The EXACT Moment Men Fall Out Of Love With Their Partners, and identifying the covert toxic dynamics at play. 4. June 28th she sends a photo of a negative pregnancy test to prove she has an abortion. Teagin Maddox is a Certified Life Coach who provides analysis and interpretation of high conflict, destructive relationships in the media, targeting the core issue and identifying the covert toxic dynamics at play, an understanding she gained through personal experience and training in domestic violence advocacy. He enjoys interacting with babies and children. At the time we were deeply in love with each other. I wish the lady knew soon enough about the mans plans and thought of a different approach but now it is a bit late for her. I never was shown a positive one and she did the supposed doctor visits herself without me. Let me start my blog with a story of a young lady I know who was in a relationship with her work colleague. Trap Red Flag #6. The first time she was intoxicated, saw myself and the girl I was walking with, ran out of the bar she was at to yell at me. Thank you. So 15 days after sex with me, shes now 5weeks and absolutely 100% positive its mine. Many other nice guys have been manipulated in a similar way. He may claim that a promise he made was not actually made, or that it wasn't made in the way you understood it, but you know better. Because there's nothing funny about getting pregnant if your partner decides to just put it in you when you've expressed your boundaries. He tries confusing you into giving him contradictory answers which makes you feel like you are the bad person in the relationship. Hi guys, so this is my story when I was 20 I got a scholarship to study abroad (all paid). 3 more days passed and she never said anything. To the selfish baby trappers you have no idea how much you also destroy your childs life. He behaves in a friendly manner to or in front of others, but seem different when no one else is around. I had to pass up a lot of opportunities. You can be a good father to a child without living with the childs mother. Then 3 weeks later ask for a professional photo shoot and put pictures on blast everywhere unless they are up to something. I hope you keep good track and hide these days from him. When I did, she told me she was cooking and would show up after. 1. He never forgets important dates or events in your life. Hi LoulouUK. For more help on how to deal with her, I suggest that you read my book which covers a wide range of circumstances: Abuse of Men By Women, It Happens, It Hurts, And Its Time to Get Real About It. He insists on calling the shots and deciding how and when communication. Its absolutely heartbreaking that people want to create a life out of selfishness and not based on a mutually loving, supportive relationship that is going to offer a safe haven for so said child to thrive in. But the unspoken truth is that there are many relationships and many people that cannot ever grow or change significantly enough to become healthy. Was this step helpful? He tries to avoid birth control, He seems nervous when you talk about birth control He often initiates sex when you are sleepy or otherwise preoccupied He talks about children or pregnancy frequently He may pout, retreat, or give you the silent treatment if you don't do things his way. To recap, here are the 8 Pregnancy Trap Red Flags. It is particularly suspicious when she failed to tell you that she was no longer protected by her customary birth control until after oops, Im pregnant. Why didnt she give you a heads-up that she had pulled the goalie? 8 Reasons You Keep Seeing Signs Of Your Ex (#4 Will Surprise You), 4 Signs He Wants To Make You His Girlfriend, 6 Signs He Likes Me But Wants To Be Friends For Now, 10 Signs A Married Man Wants To Sleep With You. So I said alright then I will drop out of Uni and quit my scholarship and go back to my home country. Math in my head seemed odd but again I trusted her. Why would he make jokes about baby fever when he is not ready to settle? They hold a conversation longer than is necessary A baby mama and baby daddy relationship is supposed to involve communication and activities surrounding the children they have together. To me, this is a man who will make every effort to impregnate you if he feels he might lose you. Right? After I caught her layering financial transactions (essentially stealing money from our family) I confronted her and she apologized. Thanks, and any other advice you are willing to share will be appreciated immensely. She could dump a baby on you and run and we would then be responsible for a kid. She called me names, accused me of lying of what I was doing that night (told her I was not interested in seeing her that night). Yes | No | I need help 4 When he pays you a conjugal visit, he brings up excuses of forgetting to carry a long condom or he says he is going to pull out. The usual norm is that ladies trap men by getting pregnant. A friend of mine almost got trapped by a dude she . I want to start a family but only with the right person and at the right time, both criteria have not been satisfied. My other sons and his best friend said no f**king way are we giving you money for that. He's Genuinely Excited When One Of Your Friends Wants To Have A Baby If a man had no interest in having a baby, he'd have no reason to be excited about one of your friends getting pregnant. So. Campregnancy gestation includes the 2 weeks before the child was conceivedthe time period between menstruation and ovulation. Your partner keeps making jokes about you two having a baby or family. There will be many cyclical arguments during which he twists what you've said and hyperfocuses on isolated words in your discussion, argument, or point, harping on them out of context, and perhaps even weeks later. Some of them seem happy, but I try to warn as many men as I can. Im not planning on doing so anytime soon. Finally after 18 years I kicked her ass out. Even hitting on me and writing me texts which I never responded to only to have her ask me to delete later on. She Gave You the Go-Ahead During Intercourse If during intercourse she manages to convince you of her safe period and months later she tells you she is pregnant, that is a trap. Like, Ha Ha Bitch, youre stuck now! What are the signs someone is faking a pregnancy? Is he really right and he never did say X or agreed to Y? The pregnancy pulled you back from the brink. I know its horrible but all I keep thinking is this chic set his ass up so she can be married move to NC and get away from her family. #4. After breaking it off Ive seen her twice while going out with different women. She drank and smoked herself to death. I worked my ass off, did most of the cooking, cleaning, chores and helped with the kids homework every night while running a business. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. I mean people dont realize what the cost of bringing a life into this world is and the responsibility on many levels that it carries. #1. He fessed up that we have a big problem and that she is pregnant with his child on June 18. 1. Only the 3rd man married her, but Im not so sure that will stop her from looking for a 4th man to trap. He knows that you have a life outside of him and he doesn't expect you to be his everything. He also believed hes doing "the right thing " because shes having a difficult pregnancy. Watch to make sure any changes you request happen, and if so, for how long they last. Grow some integrity. When she heard that she said no, no you shouldnt do that bla bla. Very cozy. I am begging for guidance to talk him out of this choice. There is NO EXCUSE for oops I forgot my pill because you can double up on pills the next day, or take plan B. Now here we are 6 weeks later and only 2 encounters with a young recent high school graduate pregnant. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Analytics". It is upon you to be more cautious and make him know that you are not ready. My brother was trapped by his girlfriend that he was planning on leaving. Without expecting it might be possible to be in a relationship that can't improve, we don't think to look for unsustained changes, keeping us stuck for longer than is good for us. Between failing health and women BS, its not worth trying to change models. You must have heard people discussing how they've started feeling trapped in the very relationship that made them feel alive earlier. He plays mind games and tries to trap you with tricky, unnecessary questions. Or so I thought. Im 48 and got your book coming out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist. I know a woman who accidentally got pregnant 3 times, trying to trap 3 different men. On good talking terms. If he wants to proceed as a couple, he can do that without getting married. 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